Monday, August 8, 2011

Nine Months Later...

It has been nine months since my last entry. In that time, you would think something would have been born! The truth is, the proofreading business isn’t doing much, but through this gestation period I have come to several realizations.

First, it has been reconfirmed that I am lousy at marketing, at least at marketing myself.

Secondly, I struggle with writing entries about proofreading when proofreading does not seem to be a topic of interest or concern to a great many. I have spent probably too much money on a service intended to “tweak” my blog. A large key to success, they tell me, is to make regular entries on a blog. I know there are writers out there who produce copy with errors – I see it every single day! And yet, they don’t seem to be disturbed by their errors. Writing, to me, has always been something to be treasured. I want the respect that great authors in history have achieved. To me, that isn’t going to happen when there are flaws with what you put in print. Finding errors and correcting them provides me with some element of satisfaction, but writing about proofreading – well, even I don’t think writing about proofreading is interesting!

Third, I am realizing that there seems to be quite a push for writers to self-publish their works. Unfortunately, I fear that the negligence on the written page that I observe so frequently will carry over to these new works. That, in turn, means that people like me for whom typos just about jump off the page, will be driven even more crazy by a rash of new authors who want to see their name in print, but don’t care enough about the quality of their work to make it right before it goes to print!

Proofreading was intended to be a mainstay for income. I was hoping to work from home. Since my door hasn’t exactly been broken down by droves of writers requiring my services, I have considered freelancing. I‘ve looked at jobs that can be bid for online, as well as companies that pay $15 per article. Attempting to sort this out, I have begun to realize that I don’t want to write just anything. I want to write what I want to write, and only when I want to write it! Hence, and finally, that kind of attitude is probably not going to get me a lot of writing jobs.

Therefore, on this nine-month anniversary of entrepreneurial independence, I remain uncertain, frustrated, and disappointed in the results of my venture thus far. As I move forward through this morass of uncertainty, I pray that I will gain other insights to lead me to that “something better” I continue to seek.

Sunday, November 7, 2010

11-7-10 I am about to take The Big Leap and launch my new business. I am in the process of developing my website. It should be up and running soon. I’m ready to begin seeking clients who need help with what they have written.

My early education provided me with a sound grounding in spelling, phonics, grammar, and other facets of the English language. I grew up having a great respect for books (instilled by my parents), and for the well-written word.

I’m certain the need is out there. Daily, when I am online, I frequently find misspellings and/or poor grammar. Somehow, these errors seem to just jump off the page for me! It makes me crazy.

Consequently, I have decided to open a proofreading/copyediting business. I know I can make many articles better. My goal is to be able to have enough regular clients that I will be able to “quit my day job” and work from home. I am beginning to collect testimonials from those for whom I have already worked. Things are rolling. It is scary, but it’s exciting, too!

Sunday, October 17, 2010

10-17-10 Of what am I most afraid?

I have lived a pretty “safe” life. Other than losing my father at the impressionable age of fourteen, I feel I’ve experienced no other great hardships or traumas in my life. I have been blessed with feeling safe and with knowing security. Consequently, my immediate reaction to being asked the question above is that there isn’t anything of which I’m afraid.

However, further scrutiny forces me to acknowledge that that response is superficial. When I take the time to be more introspective, I become more aware. I am afraid of something. I am afraid of not committing enough…of doing only the essentials…and of trying to just “get by.” I am afraid that, at the end of my life, I will regret that I did not grab the proverbial bull by the horns and hold on with all my might to take the ride of my life. I have always felt too weak in my convictions to be true to the beat of a different drummer.

Perhaps this fear of commitment stems back to my dad’s death. It was sudden and unexpected, and it took away the one person I trusted and in whom I believed. It took my best friend, someone I was just beginning to get to know as a person, as well as the man I called my father. It took away the man who believed in me, who had told me repeatedly that I could do anything I put my mind to doing. I don’t believe I have ever been able to invest that amount of love, trust, or commitment in anyone or anything since.

My challenge then is to move forward…to learn to trust…and to have confidence in myself and in the things (and people) in which I believe. It is much easier to write about this, though, than it is to act upon it. Yet, as I am now probably about two-thirds of the way through my life, it is a serious challenge and a vital quest to be acted upon without delay. I do not want to regret on my deathbed that I didn’t live my life to its fullest. I don’t want to have skipped any steps. I want to have left no page unturned. I want to be proud of all that I have accomplished in my life. I want most to be able to say that I lived my life the best I could. I want my book to have a happy ending.

Thursday, September 9, 2010

9-9-10 It has been just over two months since I last wrote. During that time, I have begun to make changes.

First, my massage business is closed. A woman who was at first interested in sharing the space agreed to take over the rent. (Unfortunately, there does not seem to be a high demand for massage equipment. I still have things to sell.) I feel no regrets. It was an experience – an enjoyable one – but it was not the right fit for me.

Secondly, I have decided to try my hand at a proofreading, copyediting, maybe copywriting, business. I even have a great name for it. Since I live in Michigan’s beautiful Upper Peninsula (the “U P”), where natives are referred to as Yoopers, I will call my business Yooperscribe. I know I am approaching this completely in reverse, but, because I like the name so much, I have already gotten my DBA (“doing business as”) registered with the county, in order to protect the name. I have also gotten some business cards printed, and some address labels. I feel enthusiastic about the prospects here, but have a need to define my market better.

I have also signed up for an online proofreading class. I need to know how much I DON’T know. Hopefully, I will complete the class, not only knowing more, but feeling confident that this is indeed something at which I can succeed.

Amazingly, I have already had a couple of jobs. I ran into a woman I had met while doing massage who has a business to help businesses network and grow. She remembered me, liked my idea, and kept my business card. A short while later, her partner contacted me to help someone they knew format policies and procedures for a service group in town. The woman whose responsibility it was told me she was very pleased with the outcome. I also made contact with a man online who does a newsletter. He had quite a few typos and was interested in receiving help to improve. It currently appears as though this may develop into a long term relationship.

I have not tried advertising as of yet. My intent is to wait until I have completed the class. Another avenue to explore will be the local college campus. Although they have a writing center available to students, I am hoping there still may be a market there.

I have always struggled with feelings of inadequacy, always fearing that I’m not “good enough.” In a logical adult world, I can look back and see where a lot of these feelings began. How amazing that they have remained with me all these years! Still, I am feeling hopeful about this decision. I would much rather be in the writing world than in the insurance/customer service business. I believe I will be much more comfortable in this venue if I can achieve it. I find it scary to think that it will be solely my responsibility to find jobs. However, I also feel a level of confidence I didn’t have in myself with massage therapy.

My plan remains to move forward. Over the years, I have learned that it uses too much energy to compare yourself to others. There will always be those who are better than you in some way – intelligence, technical capabilities, manual dexterity, art, music…the list is endless. Rather, it is more important to trust in your own assets, and to trust in God. Ask God for help when things become difficult. Use all of your abilities to grow your life the best you can. If you use the gifts with which God has blessed you, you will be rewarded. With God, all things are possible. My mantra today is to move forward and be positive.

Monday, July 5, 2010

07-05-10 Lately, I have been doing a lot of soul-searching, considering some major transitions in my life.

First up for consideration has been my massage therapy business. Never having excelled in science, I’ve been amazed that I successfully completed the class for massage therapy. Unfortunately, while living in the same town in which the massage classes are being held is an advantage while you are taking the classes, it is NOT an advantage while seeking a way to use the skills learned. There are massage therapists all over this town, at every turn!

Feeling that I thought I preferred to work for someone else, I approached many businesses in the area, only to be told that they were not interested. Two assisted living facilities were happy to have me volunteer, but neither was able either to hire me, or to let me rent space at their facilities.

I am no longer twenty-something. For years, I worked at jobs in which I really didn’t want to stay, but stayed – for my husband and for myself - because of the income and the benefits. Now, I am retired and separated, free to choose what I want to do, but I lack as much energy as I had back in “the day.” It is official: I now know that I am not willing to commit the time and energy required to build a massage practice. I had wanted a small niche. I was unable to find it. I am closing up shop and selling my equipment.

I now have a new idea, though, and I think it might suit me better. It may even be more compatible with who I am, the lifestyle I want to pursue, and with what I want others to know about me. I intend to explore what it takes to be a proofreader. To me, it seems like typographical errors are forever jumping off the page, so the need is there. I am not certain, though, that those who make the errors think they are important, or that the erring parties are even aware they are making said errors. I like to write. Because I want the words I put on a page to reflect exactly what I mean, and because I hate being distracted by incorrect spelling or use of word, I pay attention to these items. This is important to me. I am hoping it will be important enough to others that they will desire my services.

Other advantages for this business include being able to work from home, to manage my time as I desire, and, should I decide to move in the future, being able to move my business with me as I will likely do most of my correspondence through e-mail and/or the postal service.

Second to be considered are the prayers I have been writing. Several months ago it seemed that publication was nearly around the corner. However, the man who was at the hub of it all, has fallen very ill. He may recover, and the possibilities we had spoken of MAY become realities, but I must begin to move forward. It is time for me to get serious about finding a publisher.

Too often lately, I have been reminded that I am no longer young. While that has certain merits, it also has pitfalls. The bottom line for me is that I have felt the need to review my life and the things I have accomplished, as well as those that are still waiting to be done. If I knew I was going to die in a week, a month, a year…what would I feel was vital to have accomplished? What do I believe I was put here on earth to do?

I am taking stock of my life these days. Soon I hope to have a new and successful business. I will move forward with efforts to find a publisher. I am taking stock of my personal belongings and attempting to downsize and simplify. In light of these realizations, and in honor of progress toward them, I am changing the title of this blog from "Tender Touch"to “Transitions.” I will renew myself and begin once more.

Saturday, May 22, 2010

5/22/10 On weight, wine, wondering, and winning. I’m very hesitant to put this on paper, but I must, in order to take my very slow, yet hopefully successful evolution of my life one step further. Regrettably, I have the same issues today that I’ve had for years. At least now I can define them. Thankfully, today they are less intense.

For years I have struggled with weight. I believe my eating habits have improved, but I am still unable to stick to a diet. I’m eating more vegetables, less bread, I resent having to eat a snack at bedtime because of a particular medication, and I have even begun drinking protein shakes for breakfast. Even so, I am unwilling to accept the regimen of a diet for any length of time. I think it has to do with the issue of gratification. I want what I want when I want it. I don’t want to be deprived. I don’t want anything else to be taken away from me. Food will fill the void.

I hate exercise. Yet, I have begun doing even that, with some regularity. Having had back problems a year ago, and an elevated rib this past Christmas season, I have realized that the only way to not hurt so much is to get myself moving in the morning. Having a dog has helped, too, because she makes me get out for nearly daily walks. Additional aches that I attribute to arthritis along with fear of returning to past pain levels keep me fairly active. However, I still hate to exercise.

Then there is wine. Oh, how I enjoy it! While I don’t drink to get drunk, I have graduated to imbibing just about daily. This has become pretty much of a constant in my life. I like the taste. I like to unwind with it. I drink when I am sad. I know that on more than one occasion I have thought a glass will help me not to feel so sad. What it really does, however, is help me not to feel. Since I have been unable to lose weight, and my middle is not getting any smaller, I have begun to wonder if wine is the contributing factor that needs to be eliminated?

It seems as though I have spent a great part of my life looking for jobs, and yes, I am looking once again. What is different this time, however, is that I have a goal – other than a job – I wish to meet. I have found a “cause” in which to believe. In the course of finding that cause, I have found a person who could be extremely instrumental in helping me to achieve a lifelong ambition. I want to move to be closer to this person, to help with the cause, and to be closer to the project that may fulfill my dreams. It isn’t as though I have to move, but I could be more involved if I did. So, what that has meant to me is that I don’t have to look for a “career” kind of job. I simply need something with which to pay the bills. Nevertheless, I am finding that the present economy is against me. There seem to be, literally, hundreds of applicants for every job advertised. Now I have begun asking myself if maybe it isn’t time to focus on doing something I have always wanted to do? What a novel idea! So I have begun looking for writing jobs. How very cool it would be to combine writing with passion for my cause! Perhaps there are hundreds of others out there looking to write as well. I guess I have decided I need to try. Once again, I lament the fact that I have had no one to be a mentor to me along the road of life. If there had been someone there to urge me on, perhaps I would have tried to change the world as a writer, instead of as a social worker.

Finally – very, very slowly – I feel that I am making some sense of things that happened in the past, my feelings about them, and why I am what I am today. Daddy’s early death impacted me greatly and has continued to affect me throughout my life. I suspect that is the crux of why I need to feel full, not be deprived, and why I don’t want to feel any other emotions. His death left me feeling alone, vulnerable, and unwilling to put my complete trust in anyone ever again. That has left me wanting in relationships, feeling lonely and depressed, insecure, and doubtful of my abilities and value. I eat to fill the void, I drink to not feel the pain, and I’ve often been stuck in a valley of depression from which it is hard to rise.

So today I am going to take another step. I am going to quit drinking – or at least, quit drinking as often. Perhaps, if I lose the alcohol, I will lose the weight. I have enjoyed watching, and have even been inspired by, the television show The Biggest Loser, but I will never exercise to the extent that those individuals do. I am probably not going to deprive myself of much more food. I can only hope that, by watching my alcohol intake more closely I will lose some weight, feel more energetic, less sad, and maybe even think more clearly about a job and life change.

I still don’t exactly know where I am headed. I'm still wondering about that. You would think, at 59, I would have figured that out by now! But, I think I’m getting closer. I’m evolving. Life is a journey, they say, and not a destination. That’s good, because then I must be on track, and, at least by the time this journey is done, I want to win the race!

Saturday, April 17, 2010

4-17-10 I found myself judging recently - and I didn't like the way it made me feel. What gives me the right to determine if someone is being truthful or not? My reactions were based solely on the superficial. But isn't it true that we do that way too often? First impressions. How a person looks, or acts, or speaks.... Circumstances - only as they appear.

I know it is not always possible to look beyond the immediate, or past the obvious...but shouldn't we try? Not doing so is like knowing only a physical description. We shouldn't forget about the heart.